Letting go, mentally and emotionally, of things we can’t control has to be one of the most difficult lessons life presents. Letting go means acknowledging that you don’t have control over what is happening, and its super-uncomfortable to feel out of control. This is especially true for people who have been in situations where someone bad held control over their life at some point. That kind of control is scary and dangerous, sometimes even deadly.
But there is another kind of letting go that doesn’t put us at risk for harm, instead it brings us peace. I am talking about “Let Go – Let God”, acknowledging the situations in which we are truly powerless and trusting that God is in control and will work things out in whatever way is ultimately best.
There are some situations in life that we do have control over, and in those cases we need to make good choices, take action, and take responsibility for what happens.
There are other situations that we may not have full control over but we have the ability to affect the outcome by our words or actions, or the choices we make. In those situations we need to do the best we can with what we know to make the right choice and do the right thing.
But we will encounter many situations in life that involve us or people we care about, where there is nothing we can do to affect the outcome. Those are the hardest times, the times that cause us the most stress and worry, the situations that tear at our hearts and keep us awake at night.
What we do when we encounter those kinds of situations makes all the difference. All the worrying will quickly wear us down, but it won’t change anything or make it better. If we dwell on it for long our minds tend to jump to worst case scenarios, and it is easy to let fear overtake us.
I have been in that place of fear and the accompanying hopelessness more times in life than I can count. I have lived my life with a sense of doom, always wondering what would go wrong next, and not realizing that in doing so I was drawing even more negative energy into my life.
I have learned that, for me, the way to reduce the level of fear and anxiety in my life is two fold. The first step is to live life one day at a time, staying focused in the present and dealing with the issues of the day.
I believe that we are given enough strength and courage to get us through the next 24 hours, and then the next 24 after that. Don’t use up your energy and fearful thinking about what the future might hold. More often than not the things we fear most never happen.
The second step sounds simple, but it can be the hardest if you are a control freak like me. Let go, let God! Relinquish your desperate desire and attempts to control things that are beyond your control, and place your faith in God to take care of those situations in His own way and His own time.
When I finally learned to say “I can’t resolve this God, but I know you love me and I trust you to take care of it,” I found the secret to peace of mind. Lay it down, let it go, let God show you what He can do. I promise you’ll sleep better at night.