Thinking Out Loud 10/18/18

It’s rained here every day this week. Rain is always welcome in West Texas, some years we hardly get any at all. The damp, gray days don’t make me sad, but rather reflective. I tend to spend more time thinking about the person I want to be, and if the things I do are keeping me headed in that direction.

How do you feel when you are texting or having a conversation with someone and they start making snide remarks about someone else? Does it make you uncomfortable, or do you find yourself laughing in agreement and maybe joining in? It sometimes seems so easy to fall into that trap, even if your heart is telling you that it’s not a nice thing to do.

I wonder why we tend to be so critical of others, even people we care about. Does it make me feel better about myself if I point out other people’s weaknesses or imperfections? Maybe mine aren’t quite so bad then, or at least I am in good company.

Or maybe I just like the sense of camaraderie with the person I’m talking to, and talking about other people makes for easy and often humorous conversation.

But every time I say something unkind about someone else I feel a twinge of sadness and disappointment in myself. The little voice inside me asks why I had to say that, it wasn’t necessary.

I remember a quote I once read that said great minds talk about ideas, average minds talk about events, and small minds talk about people. Small-minded is not the kind of person I want to be.

If I want to be thought of and remembered as a kind and compassionate person, I need to take more care of my thoughts and what comes out of my mouth. I need to become less critical. It really isn’t that hard to think of something nice to say, there is no excuse ever to be unkind!

-JTS-

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8 thoughts on “Thinking Out Loud 10/18/18

  1. I have this rule, I will never say anything about someone that I wouldn’t be afraid to say to their face. I’m a jokester and I like to laugh at myself as well as anybody else that wants to join but that’s the thing. They’ve got to want to join in. If they don’t then I don’t play that way. People are way too mean-spirited and I don’t like that at all. It’s like I tell people. If you see 10 flaws about me, trust me, there are 500 more you know nothing about. 🙂 People need to put down the magnifying glass and pick up a mirror.

  2. This is a difficult topic. While I don’t want to talk badly about other people, I sometimes can’t resist. But as soon I become aware of it, I stop it. My aim is to prevent going into this “trap”, as you call it, completely.

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